There are two things that will reverse a trauma back into a life experience and put the memory where it belongs. One is going back to the first trauma, or the first time one felt the “state of no control or helplessness” and the second is sharing the writing.

The writing works because one uses the very same senses used during the trauma, i.e. touch, sounds, smells, taste, and sight. It takes 2 or more physical senses to turn a bad experience into a trauma. Reusing those senses during the writing allows the psyche to understand why it holds on to the pain. I ask my clients to remember as much of the physical senses as possible. The second reason is when the trauma is shared it loses its internal strength. Writing about the first pain and sharing it, the two together allows the psyche to release. Coming forward with the same intent, one can see and understand when, where, how, and what decisions were made in their lifetime to put them on the road to lowering their self-esteem. Each time, coming forward, the individual gains confidence; the speed of recovery gets faster; and most of the behaviors obtained through low self-esteem go to the wayside. Eventually self-awareness is no longer painful and allows one to change what behaviors they don’t like, allowing them to become the person they wish to be. The time frame, using the above technique is anywhere from a few months to just a few years, depending upon the severity of the original truama and those following it.

You go girl and encourage them to journal and share.

Know you are loved, Lady